Yes. You can write personal vows as well as the legal vows required for a civil marriage. Your personal promises can be heartfelt, light-hearted, short or detailed; they do not need to sound like anyone else’s.
Your celebrant will provide the legal wording and explain the permitted choices. Keep that wording distinct from your personal promises, and ask your celebrant to check the finished version before the day.
A useful starting point is what you value in your partner, one shared memory and the promises you genuinely want to make. If you want to keep your vows a surprise from each other, send them separately to your celebrant for help with balance and timing.
Staring at a blank page? Try these three lines.
- What I love: one quality you treasure in your partner.
- What I remember: a small moment that feels like the two of you.
- What I promise: something real you want to bring to your life together.
“I love the way you ____. I’ll always remember ____. I promise to ____.”
A starting point for personal promises, not a substitute for your legal vows. Your celebrant supplies the required wording.
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